Are you committed to your relationship? Find Out

 

Are you committed to your relationship? Find Out

Commitment is a sense of treating your partner with love, care, support, and respect even when you are angry, and through thin and thick. Every relationship has its own bad side. Just as it is said “No marriage is a bed of Roses”.

Sadly, a lot of relationships have sunk deep because of the lack of these lovely yet scarce qualities in our modern world.

What then, are the signs of lack of commitment in Any Relationship?

1.   Bridge of Communication: Communication is the bedrock of committed relationships. When there is a consistent lack of open and honest communication between those in a relationship, it can indicate a lack of commitment. Avoiding difficult conversations, withholding important information, or consistently failing to share one's feelings and thoughts can erode the foundation of trust and emotional connection.

2.   Lack of Shared Goals: Each relationship has its own shared goals. If partners have divergent paths and fail to align their visions for the future, it can be a sign of a lack of commitment. When you have a “me first attitude” or prioritize your own ambitions over the collective growth and success of the relationship, it can lead to feelings of disconnect and undermine the commitment to the partnership.

3.   Disengaged Emotion: Emotional intimacy and connection are vital in committed relationships. When one or both partners become emotionally distant, withdrawn, or disengaged, it can indicate a lack of commitment. This may manifest as a decreased interest in each other's lives, diminished affection, or a general lack of emotional support and empathy.

4.   Reluctance towards conflict resolution: Every relationship experiences conflict. But committed partners actively work to resolve conflicts and find mutually satisfactory solutions. However, a lack of commitment can be evident when one or both partners consistently avoid or ignore conflicts. Unresolved conflicts can lead to resentment, emotional distance, and a breakdown of the relationship over time.

5.   Lack of Investment in the Relationship: Commitment requires consistent effort and investment from both partners. If one partner consistently fails to contribute to the relationship or prioritises other aspects of life over the partnership, it may indicate a lack of commitment. This can manifest as neglecting quality time together, failing to meet each other's needs, or consistently disregarding the emotional well-being of the relationship.

Most times, lapses in these signs are not necessarily indicative of a lack of commitment. However, if these signs persist and become a consistent pattern within the relationship, it may be an indication that the commitment needs to be addressed and reevaluated.

What can help?

Ask yourself these self examining questions;

• Do I find myself regretting being in the relationship in every slightest dispute?

• Do I always think of being with someone else?

• How often do I use the statements “Am leaving you”,” Am sick and tired of this relationship”, “Am leaving you for someone else”, “I regret”?

•  Do I find myself using the language “We are not just meant for each other?”

If yes is the answer to the above self examining questions, then there is a need for you to strengthen your commitment in your relationship.

What you should do

1.   Instead of regretting being in the relationship, why don’t you ask yourself what you can do to ensure that love and respect exist in your relationship? Perhaps you can try;

·       Changing your viewpoint about the situation

·       How do you contribute to the dispute?

·       Is there anything you are not doing well?

·       Is there something you can do to foster love and respect thereby, displaying commitment?

2.   Stop daydreaming being with another person. Strike out the thought that your ex is better, I wish I married Emma, it could have been john. This negative thought is really sinful.  The greatest man who ever lived once said “Anyone who keeps on looking at a woman(Man) so as to have passion for her/him has already committed adultery with her/him in his heart (Matthew 5:28). So why should you fall into that sin unknowingly? Perhaps you can try;

·       Try to replace that thought with the good times you once had with your partner

·       Ensure you write occasional love text messages to your partner, even when you are within the same roof.

·       Manifest true commitment by displaying pictures of your partner on your desk, and office while at work.

·       Make out time to call your partner even if you are busy

Finally, if you are committed in your relationship, you should not be quick to anger; you should be quick to apologise and to forgive. Remember real commitment is based on mutual love for each other and not because of social standards or family pressure.

If you try out these suggestions of being committed to your relationship, be rest assured that you will experience the joy that comes from being committed in your relationship.